So I posted the other day about my plans to participate in World Book Night. World Book Night! (First year for US give-aways!)
Today was the day, so I took my Bag O' Books with me on RTA (actually that worked out particularly well; my carpool coworker happened to have today off anyway). I had 20 books to distribute, and I currently have two left. I gave away 6 or so on my first bus, another half dozen at the downtown Tower City RTA stop, one to the bus driver on my last bus, two to coworkers, and set aside one for a homeless friend who drops by every so often. Folks were a bit bemused, but pleased. Two even mentioned that they'd heard about the book (The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks) and been curious about it. I managed to distribute them to folks of a wide variety of ages, races, and genders, which made me happy.

This weekend was ridiculous, pretty much entirely by my own choice. I'd signed up for overtime for second shift Saturday, and then I'd swapped my Sunday afternoon shift with a coworker who couldn't get anyone else to cover for him Sunday morning. So I was working 3pm-11:30pm, and 7am-3:30pm. We had a major downtime (hence all the overtime - there's a string of them this summer as they relocate the Data Center), but it went well, so call volume was low.

I ended up getting really buried in all the documentation and organization work I'm doing for my current project, and decided it was easier to stay over at work than to try to get home and back to sleep a bit (I'd either need to arrange a ride in at 6:30am, or get up at 4:30 to catch the bus -- Sunday morning at o'god o'clock is not the time to need to get anywhere by public transit). I can sleep anywhere, so I wasn't too worried about that. And I've been pretty manic recently, so my fingers were twitching to keep working on the documentation project. I check with AwesomeSauceBoss and let him know I was a bit manic and might be insomniac and want to do some work, so he approved the extra OT.
mostly mania and health notes )

Random thoughts from this weekend: Back in the 80s, when IUDs had such a bad rap due to the Dalkon Shield debacle, they should've hired Ron Popeil to market them. This came to mind as I was thinking about how happy I am with having switched to one. Which rarely crosses my mind because, after all, you just SET IT AND FORGET IT!

I was also thinking about the fact that I'm one of a subset of avowed atheists who actually had really good experiences with the church and became atheist anyway. And it occurred to me that my emotional reaction to the Episcopal Church as an entity is very much like my emotional reactions to the concept of monarchy. All tied up in romantic imagery and childhood memories and a weird sort of fondness, but that doesn't change that I don't honestly believe either is a good idea, per se.

Also, I FINALLY registered for Reunion! So excited; the Peeps Reunion (every four years) and the FLOO reunion (every five) are happening the same year for the first time! And it'll be my first chance to show Chad around one of the most important physical places in my life.

Today's been really busy on the phones, since we had three people out on my shift (and a fourth who was let go for a lie on his resume). I've gotten a bit of my project work done, and nothing else.

Books!!

Feb. 2nd, 2012 04:52 pm
I just heard back from World Book Night! Hopefully I'll be giving out my first choice book; The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks. It's right at the intersection of science geekery and social justice, so it feels like the perfect choice for me.

Dear World Book Night book giver,

Yes, you read that right: World Book Night book giver! Has a nice ring to it, yes? And you're one of them, or will be on April 23! Thank you!!!!!!!

Three things for you to do right now:

1) Smile, shout; whatever you like to do to celebrate. And accept our grateful thanks for your application. World Book Night is all about you and your passion for books and your community and fellow citizen.

2) TELL MORE OF YOUR FRIENDS! You're in, the deadline has been extended to Monday, Feb. 6 at midnight, and the more the merrier.
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I'm still working on the big giant spreadsheet, but as I'm checking out piles from the library and reading through them, I want to make some notes while it's fresh in my mind, and pass those along to folks who are interested. Since I'm also reviewing them on Amazon and posting those reviews to Facebook, apologies to folks who see this twice.
reviews back here )
It's been a week of flaring, and I've been playing with my book spreadsheets instead of reading articles that require any modicum of actual brainpower. Feeling a good bit better, though, and psyched about this weekend being the beginning of my Saturdays off. Yay! And I've gotten a lot done on the kids books recommendation list, although the more I get done, it seems the more I create to do. Still, it's amusing me, and it's no less useful than any other random hobby. Also, still haven't heard back from Metro about volunteering to read to kids. I wonder what's up with that.

Also, I just made use of some of the Audible credits that've been stacking up in my account. I now have How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe, Life Ascending: The Ten Great Inventions of Evolution, Nonsense on Stilts: How to Tell Science from Bunk. I'm currently still finishing up Natalie Angiers' The Canon: A Whirligig Tour of the Beautiful Basics of Science. It's a lovely and cheerful refresher for folks who are pretty familiar with the sciences, and I suspect would be a good introduction for those who don't see what there is to love in the realm.

On the other hand, I've been having trouble getting into the Full Cast Recording of American Gods. I'm interested to hear this particular version (Neil gives a long intro explaining why it's somewhat different than all other versions), but I'm not sure full cast recordings are for me. I find the switch in actors is throwing me out of things more than hearing a single reader change their voice would. I'm going to give it a bit longer, though. I only listened to it for 15 or 20 minutes when I was already tired on the drive back from Nashville.

Also, I finally got around to watching a Netflix I've had for ages; The Second Coming, with Christopher Eccleston in the lead role, and written by Russell T Davies. Odd, and fascinating, and well worth seeing.

Additionally, I'm pleased to report back that Rare Exports: A Christmas Tale lived up to my expectations pretty well (although I was hoping to get to see the main villian in action). Definitely one I'd like to own.

Next up: A Matter of Size. Heads up to my sumo-obsessed brothers! (and Rotten Tomatoes seems to like it, too!)
A lot of what originally started this whole project was a set of conversations Chad and I had about my history with reading, and what turned me into a voracious reader. We've been talking about it in the context of Kidlet, and how to encourage that kind of joy in reading in him. I think I had a pretty ideal childhood in terms of reading development, so I figured I'd write out how that worked for me, in case it's useful for ideas for others. Again, not a parent, not a teacher, not an education specialist. Just a former kid who loves books.

First of all, credit where credit is due:

1. Mom and Dad
2. Holly Township Library
3. Used Book Stores
4. My brothers

Reading aloud together is important to me. Really important to me. So important that one of my first tattoos is actually a reference to family story time (it's the Dawn Treader, since I have such strong memories of Mom reading the Narnia series to us). So important that I couldn't entirely give it up when I left for college, and my freshman year roommate got fairy tales every so often. I still occasionally read aloud to friends, family, and lovers for the pure joy of it. Incidentally, this has also led to the development of skills that have been helpful in my life, like clear diction, and confidence speaking in public. Although I can't sing to save my life, I get praised for my speaking voice on a regular basis. I was layreader in church when I was a teen (I even had to get special approval because I was so young, but I was soooo proud to be able to pronounce all those old testament names and read so clearly!) I've often been the announcer or reader for other meetings, events, etc. In other words, I'm a fan, and think encouraging "family reading time" is really important.

As I've mentioned before, I have two younger siblings, 4 1/2 and 11 years younger than me. This helped naturally extend "family story time" such that I don't remember a time that I was living at home during which reading aloud wasn't a family activity. I don't know if we could've successfully extended it quite as long if I were an only child, but I do think it's very worthwhile to continue reading together long after children are able to read on their own. Also, getting to be "Big Sister" and read to my little brothers (and help them learn to read) made me feel all proud, and helped me learn the joys of sharing books from the other side of things. Family reading time happened every evening, or every few evenings, and we'd all pile onto the bed together, and Mom would read to us. As we got older, we'd take turns reading, too. The material would vary, and often include shorter picture books and poetry, but was very often a chapter or two of a longer book each evening. This is how I first heard C.S. Lewis, J.R.R. Tolkien, Anne McCaffrey, Mary Norton, E. Nesbit, and a multitude of others. Reading time is absolutely one of my most powerful and treasured childhood memories.

Reading together also allowed me to enjoy more complex stories before I was necessarily quite ready to read them on my own, which helped keep me from getting bored with the material that was "in my range". This wasn't a problem for all that long, but I think it's a crucial point for kids deciding whether reading on their own is a good use of their time, and especially for kids who are struggling with reading on their own. I honestly don't have a good sense of age-appropriateness, and have to check listings on that regularly, because my reading level progressed very quickly (I was testing at grade 12+ in 5th or 6th grade), and my parents never limited my access to books. Instead, they took a general approach of being aware of what I was reading, and available if I had questions or confusions (which was a part of their overall parenting approach regarding access to information).

And on that note, I think asking kids about what they're reading is a generally great idea. Not just to make sure they're not running into things that are problematic, but more centrally in order to bond with them over the process of reading, and reinforce the idea that books are cool and full of neat stuff worth sharing. "What's it about?" "What do you like about it?" "Who's your favorite character?" "Why?" -- those are just useful opportunities for conversation!

I started into adult SF/F when I was about 10, and although I occasionally ran into concepts that were more mature than I was capable of processing, it wasn't really a big deal. Stuff that's too "adult" for kids is often just generally uninteresting to them, in my experience. It was really important and meaningful to me that Mom and Dad explicitly signed off on me having an "all access" library card, and not just a "juvenile lit" card, but as much as I felt a frisson of thrill about it, I just wasn't interested in reading things that made me too uncomfortable or confused (or bored). On the other hand, I don't think it's likely that a kid who's reading adult-level books can continue to be convinced that sex is a thing that doesn't exist in the world, but if you're looking for those kinds of hyper-protectionist recs, I'm really, really the wrong person.

Access. I don't know exactly how old I was when I got my first library card, but I was probably somewhere between 3 and 5 years old. It may seem like a minor thing, and easier to check things out on the parent's card, but it really made me feel all grown up, and that's a good association for almost any little kid. Also, we spent a lot of time at the Library. A whole lot. It was really a second home to me (especially because Dad was on the library board). Feeling "at home" in the library is really good and important for encouraging reading, imo. And it was the children's librarians who really continued to encourage me (never underestimate the value of a summer reading competition with little rubber eraser prizes!)

Also, I loved and love used bookstores. Any bookstore is awesome, but there's something extra exciting about exploring a used bookstore and finding weird little treasures for ridiculously low (and affordable on kids allowances) prices. Library booksales are also amazing experiences for a kid with a pocketful of change.

Also, I think it really helped that a lot of the people in my life talked about books like they were worth something. They shared about things they were reading and enjoying, they talked about books they'd read that I might like, they gave me books as presents. We had treasured family books from Mom and Grandma's childhood that were treated as heirlooms. I lived in a house with books in every single room. It was crystal clear that books were valuable and important. More than anything, I absorbed that from them every single day.

And if I were to go into all the myriad ways I've found that true over the years, I'd be here another eight hours writing hymns to the power of the written word to comfort, to challenge, to excite, and to change one's life.

My parents have given me an unbelievable amount in life. My joy in reading is one of the gifts I treasure most from them.
Context, since I mention lots of critters here:
Tarma (hound) and Leroy (Pom) -- our dogs, front house
Jax (shepherd) and Ditko (Shih Tzu) -- Bec and Jer's dogs, back house
Mushroom, X, Ringo, Riley, Cat -- our cats, front house
Pookie -- my snake, front house
Bob -- friendliest of the stray cats in the neighborhood, he's our adopted outdoor cat
Coco -- our neighbor's Pom that we petsit most weeks
Ellie -- my boss's beagle
Bella -- our friend Amy's pug that we sometimes sit for
Sugar (shepherdish mix) and Fred Milton (cockapoo) -- friends dogs that we'll be petsitting this week

My icon is Tarma and Ringo asleep together.

Ellie's doing pretty well adjusting to our place; she obviously misses Boss, but she's settling in and getting comfortable. She adores both Liv and Grafton, and she got steak bits this morning, so her life isn't sucking too badly. Last night she slept curled up against me, although I paid for it this morning when she walked all over my head. Ah well. And although we don't have Coco this week, it looks like we'll be getting Sugar for a few days over the weekend. She belongs to some friends on the east side, and it's been a few years since we've petsit for her, but she's a sweetie, so I'm looking forward to it. Very mellow, chill cattle-dog/shepherd mix of some sort, with a lovely red coat. Oh, just talked to her owner; it'll be Sugar and another dog, a small cockapoo named Fred Milton.

I also got some time with stray-cat-Bob on the front porch this morning, and he seems to be doing well. We've got another TNR appt scheduled for one of the other stray cats in December, but it'll require a bit of help from the neighbors to catch her (already talked to them about it).

I've been joking with the housemates about how all the petsitting gives a good outlet to my "must get to know new animals" tendencies, and prevents our household pet population from exploding any further or faster. For a bit of context on my worldview, I'm not just newly turning into the "crazy cat lady", I always have been. From the time I was 4 or 5 until I was in my late teens I was always planning on working with animals in some context; depending on the year I might've been planning zoo vet, wildlife researcher, animal rehab worker, etc. Until college, there was never a time in my life I didn't have a lot of pets. Really, really a lot. Above a dozen at any given point was pretty typical. Cats, dogs, rabbits, snakes, frogs, salamanders, rats, guinea pigs, parakeets, a random pigeon, etc. We lived on the road where folks in town dumped stray animals, and we had woods behind the house that were my primary playspace (house rule was that I could bring home cold-blooded wild critters but not warm-blooded, since there aren't many diseases that will transmit over that great a biological gap and warm-blooded animals that let you get near them are probably sick anyway; that way salmonella was really the only concern). Blessing of the Animals on St. Francis' Day is still my favorite church holiday, bar none. I remember critter names better than their owners, and I am substantially more comfortable in any environment that has animals than I am in those without. I'm that stranger on the street who can't help asking if I can introduce myself to your dog. Mom and Dad were remarkably patient with all of it, and as an adult I've chosen to only live with other people who are cool with a relatively substantial level of pet-related chaos as well.

I got through college pet-withdrawal thanks to my snake Pookie and an assortment of professors' dogs and strays, but as soon as I got out and into my own place I had cats and other critters again. It's a more major factor in my life than it may seem -- it has everything to do with why I'm a "stable home base" and not a "wanderer". It's a major part of keeping myself psychologically stable and functional, too -- having critters that depend on me requires me to hold it together much better than I might otherwise with the bipolar. Conversely, nothing can jack my stress level through the roof like the combo of financial issues and pet needs, so I do need to keep some sort of limit on my critter collection. The pets were a huge factor in my decision to buy the houses last year -- there's been nothing that was a bigger background fear than losing our place for some reason and having to find someone new willing to rent to me with all the critters. People can couchsurf, stuff can go into storage, but there's just no way to be homeless with that many animals. Having the house as ours has really relieved that stress hugely, and is probably the biggest thing I love about owning our own place. It also has a lot to do with the extent to which I'm a homebody, both because of the practical obligations and because there's rarely elsewhere I'd rather be than with the critters.

That's also why I consider it my personal mission, in relation to taking in new animals, to focus on situations where someone is having to give up a beloved pet; it's my personal great fear, so I have a lot of empathy for it, and I see it as something of a two-fer -- doing something good for the person and the critter at the same time. Although I've never lost my original interests, along the way I actually discovered I mostly liked people too, and got even more strongly drawn to women's health care and GLBT activism work. As a result, a lot of people who know me these days may not be aware of what a major factor critters are in my life. So, there. Now you do.

In other news, it's all rainy, so I'm all flarey. Boo. I just finished the most recent Walking Dead volume (#12), so I guess I'm done there for a while, at least til a new one comes out (Jer doesn't get that one in individual issues, so it'll be when the next volume is released). I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it; I'm certainly fascinated and sucked in, but it also hits a lot of the buttons I don't normally much enjoy hitting -- the ways in which human beings can be evil to each other. It's why I'm a creature-horror fan, not a slasher fan, too. My general feeling is that I've got a limited amount of emotional energy to cope with depressing crap, and I try to keep that directed at the real life/nonfiction versions. I tend to like my fictional entertainment pretty psychologically light and fluffy, even when it's gory as hell.

I'm currently reading The Beak of the Finch: A Story of Evolution in Our Time -- I'm only into the second chapter, but it's a fun read so far. Yay, evolution! Oh, and I sent off an email to Preterm about volunteer possibilities, so I'm excited about that, too.

It should be a quiet week aside from the critter-stuff. Lots of folks taking time off at the Clinic, so our call volume will be pretty low, and I can get through more of those CBTs (Computer-Based Trainings, for the kinkier among you who are snickering -- I giggle too!). Life is good.

Also good, for the locals: Farkas Pastries. I got some of their goodies the other day, and I've already sent Grafton back for more apple pie. Mmmm-tasty.

Big upcoming house project is going to be rewiring the back downstairs apartment. Should be interesting; Liv and I aren't handling any of the hot work, just running the cable to the boxes before we hire someone to come in and terminate it all in the main box, but we're both madly reading up on electrical code requirements and such to make sure we don't screw it up.
Do you know why I'm such a huge fan of Robert L. Forward? It's not the characterizations (I can't remember a single individual human character from any of his books distinctly enough to describe), it's not the relatively basic plots. It's the shiny, shiny appendices. Oh, the diagrams and the explanations, they pull me in! Frankly, I think Forward wrote "fiction about science" more than any commonly held definition of science fiction, and it worked for me. But my fascination with diagrams and maps isn't just about my love of hard science fiction; it's more than that.

I think maybe it's because I'm a very spatial thinker; just as I do better when people show me a map than tell me directions, atlases of imaginary places help cement the space in my mind, wrap my head around it more fully. I'm always a little more excited about a book if it's got a map in the first few pages. If it's actually a decent map, I'll flip back to it numerous times while I'm reading the book. I've had maps of Narnia and Middle-Earth hanging in my living space since I was about 8. The first time I saw the Atlas of Pern I practically swooned. Cross-sections, and planetary orbits, and maps, maps, maps! Oh, sure, I liked the other reference books, like The Dragonlover's Guide to Pern and The People of Pern, but nothing beat the Atlas. I still own my copy, and it's battered all to hell from years of rereading. (yes, Pern, as well as Valdemar and Darkover, were major parts of my teen reading and are still "comfy home/security blankets" for rereading despite their various flaws). And despite not being at all in the habit of rereading LOTR, I still crave a copy of The Atlas of Middle-Earth, after seeing the job Fonstad did on Pern. Incidentally, I tend toward a preference for massively multiple-book series for my most escapist reading. There are a lot of reasons for that, not all linked to the topics of this post, but the space for really detailed and extravagant world-building is definitely a major factor.

Also, I just find additional reference material with my fiction to be a major bonus. I'm very fond of family tree diagrams in books with a lot of convoluted "who's related to whom" stuff, too. Oh, and footnotes. Love 'em. Especially silly footnotes, but I'm not picky. Barlowe's Guide to Extraterrestrials was my bible in 4th grade (well, that and the Encyclopedia of Reptiles and Amphibians). Oh, getting to see the aliens in full-color, to see handy little references, comparative sizes, etc... There are a number of books I only read after getting all fascinated with their aliens thanks to Barlowe. I also had/have a copy of The Dictionary of Imaginary Places; so much less detailed than I would've liked, but another source of maps! I think that's where I first found a good map of Oz (interesting notes in that about recurrent East/West confusions in the maps that accompanied some volumes, btw). And just because I was poking around, here, have a map of Oz and surrounding countries, too.

Heck, sometimes I don't even need an actual story for the world-building to be based on: After Man: A Zoology of the Future. I picked this up at a local museum as a pre-teen; spent every penny of several allowances on it, and loved it dearly.

Other semi-related links:
Article on Worldbuilding

Charts_and_maps community on Livejournal.

The Map Room blog, entries about Imaginary Places -- lots of fun reading.

One of the earliest maps I remember loving when I was a kid -- the Map of the Island of Tangerina and Wild Island from My Father's Dragon

(my favorite thing about how cheap CGI has become is somewhat related to all this; I love it for science shows -- for the ability to make superimposed maps, cutaway diagrams, nifty models of molecules or the universe, etc)
I know I've encountered lots of lists of modern YA science fiction and fantasy, and I certainly don't mind getting links to such lists and discussions and such, but I'm also curious what you particularly love.

Although not particularly modern, I do enjoy The Lewis Barnavelt Series.

I think it was Marn who introduced me to the Chronicles of Chrestomanci, which I really enjoy immensely. Diana Wynne Jones has a number of other excellent YA titles outside that series, too.

Rather embarrassingly, I actually own City of Ember, and the sequel, but have yet to read them (although I did catch the movie on cable more than once, and enjoyed it a good deal).

I mentioned Madeline L'Engle and Lloyd Alexander in the previous post, as well as some of Anne McCaffrey's work. Ursula LeGuin's Earthsea definitely falls into this category, too, as does a great deal of Jane Yolen's work.

Edit to add: My brother [livejournal.com profile] jajy1979 reminded me of a favorite from our childhood, Little Grey Men, and I also can't believe I forgot to mention [livejournal.com profile] marnanel's Not Ordinarily Borrowable, and [livejournal.com profile] yuki_onna's The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland. I also loved The Girl With the Silver Eyes, although I haven't read it since I was 11 or so.

Oh, and Cycler and (Re)Cycler look potentially interesting -- has anyone read them?

So, that's some moderate number of the "big names" -- who do you have to add?
My brother found me a collection of E. Nesbit's children's stories online! Also, if you're just generally interested in kickass women who blew societal expectations out of the water in their time, she's one to know.

Oh, and if you want to read some of the most influential early fantasy work (he was influential on Tolkien, C.S. Lewis, and Lewis Carroll for example), they've got a whole section on George MacDonald, too! I grew up on his fairy tales, and I also still have a deep love for Lilith, despite no longer generally finding great enjoyment in explicitly Christian allegorical fantasy. The Wise Woman (also known as The Lost Princess and The Double Story) is another personal favorite of mine.

Ooooooh! And they have all of Andrew Lang's Fairy Tale Collections, which are a significant chunk of the fairy tales on which I grew up, although no East of the Sun, West of the Moon, Tales of a Russian Grandmother, or Tatterhood (a great collection of feminist fairy tales my grandmother gave me; I identify hugely with Tatterhood). Here's a link to the Tatterhood story, although it's not quite the same version I grew up on (the version I read has a slightly different ending, in which the prince gets more of a clue earlier in the procession, and by the time she fully reveals herself, is no longer concerned at all -- in fact, it doesn't even say whether she was beautiful or not, which I always liked). And, since I'm being all nostalgic, a summary of Three Strong Women, another of my childhood favorites from the Tatterhood collection.

And they also have Frances Hodgson Burnett, another mainstay of my childhood reading, and L. Frank Baum, and Beatrix Potter, although unfortunately they don't seem to have her chapter book for older children, The Fairy Caravan, online yet. They do have Kenneth Grahame, though. Other favorites, although more recent authors, so not available free online, include P.L. Travers (Mary Poppins series), Mary Norton (The Borrowers series), Lucy M. Boston (Green Knowe series), Astrid Lindgren (Pippi Longstocking series), Margery Sharp (The Rescuers series), Tove Jansson (The Moomins series), and Rosalie K. Fry, although it makes me sad how hard it is to find copies of her absolutely lovely book, The Wind Call, or anything of hers except The Secret of Roan Inish, really. I believe several of her other books are actually sequels or set in the same "world" as The Wind Call, but there's so little info available I'm not sure which. Argh. Oh! Ohohoh!!! I just discovered that one of my childhood favorites, The Adventures of Perrine by Hector Malot, is finally available again, although without the beautiful illustrations and under a new title Nobody's Girl. Still, I'm so very happy to see it available again; I'd like to have a reading copy, since mine's the original 1936 printing, and no longer in the greatest shape. Along those same lines, my copy of Beyond the PawPaw Trees is missing about 20 pages, and utterly falling apart. Unfortunately, it's ridiculously rare, as is the sequel I've never yet read, The Silver Nutmeg. Someday. Someday.

Oh, hey, project for today! I'm horribly behind on doing any sort of categorization on my library as it's listed at LibraryThing. Today would be a good day to go through and work on identifying all the fairy and folk tales, and maybe the rest of the children's books, too. It's quiet as death in the office, and my other major plan mostly involves watching the last five eps of Doctor Who: The War Games (a 10-part serial from the Patrick Troughton days).

Incidentally, I blame the preponderance of British children's books in my life for my longstanding bafflement over US/UK spelling differences. It's a large part of why I tend to use the British spellings pretty frequently; it "looks right" to me because it's often how I first encountered the words in question in print form.

Edit to add: Ooh, My Father's Dragon is online in its entirety, including map and illustrations!

Edit to add: The Minnow on the Say (also known as The Minnow Leads to Treasure) -- another favorite from my childhood.

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Among other info, "the state ranks 48th in the nation for access to contraception" *headdesk* And this is a lot of why I stay in Ohio. Maude knows there's plenty of work to do around here!

Also, a post from feministing: Not Oprah's Book Club: Reproductive Edition

Holy hell, is this some victim-blaming bullshit: The Worst Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Ever -- if you're reading the original article, explanations of victim-blaming are laid out in crystal-clear detail in several of the comments (I know, comments sections are generally trainwrecks, but there's some seriously good stuff here). Well damn. Site's down; I suspect they've gotten slammed with traffic or something. Ah, it's back again.

A comment from someone named Alara really nails this all down so well and clearly I think it's worth specifically resharing:

This stuff would not be nearly so bad if women weren’t *literally* treated as if we were responsible for being raped.

I mean, if I leave my car door open, and I come back to find my car stolen, the police will likely say “Well, it was really stupid of you to leave the car door open.” But if they find some guy joyriding in my car, they won’t say, “Oh, she left the car door open, so it’s okay that this guy stole her car! We’re just going to tsk tsk at him and let him go. With her car.” They will *arrest* him, and give me back my car. If my car never turns up, insurance *will* pay for it. People will express their opinion that I was dumb for leaving my car door open, but no one will act as if my foolishness makes the theft of my car NOT A CRIME.

The entire reason “advice to women on how to avoid rape” should die in a fire is that the failure of women to follow such advice is treated, by the police, juries, and judges, as a mitigating factor that made what happened to them not a *crime*. Sure, going out and getting drunk and passing out in a bar is a dumb idea. And if a man did it, and woke up to find his clothes and wallet stolen, and eyewitnesses said Joe Schmoe was seen alone with the victim and is now sporting the victim’s watch and shoes, Joe Schmoe would be arrested for theft and possibly assault even though the victim was drunk off his ass in a public place, always a dumb idea. Friends of the victim, and the police, may tell him he was dumb to get so drunk… but he will be treated as a crime victim, and if Joe Schmoe can be found, Joe Schmoe will be arrested. But when a woman does it, and discovers when she wakes up that she was raped, the fact that she was drunk in public is used as an excuse to declare that what happened to her wasn’t even criminal. Because the things we own belong to us whether we are around to prevent them from being taken or not, but apparently, women’s own *selves*, our bodies, are free game for sex any time we’re not able to fend off men who want to use them.

I don’t object to being given advice on how to avoid being raped, but I do object to three huge things that hide behind such advice:
- 80% of all murder victims, and the vast majority of all mugging and physical assault victims, are men. No one gives men this kind of advice. In fact, given that stranger rape is rare, and mugging and assault aren’t, men are in *more* danger from walking down a dark alley than women are. My husband has been jumped and beaten up four times in his life, after dark each time. No one tells men “don’t go out at night! You could get beaten up!” even though it’s true and the risk’s actually higher than the risk of being raped by a stranger.
- 80% of all rapes are committed by a man the woman knows. This advice is useless against the majority of rapes. The real advice to women to prevent rape should be “Never be alone with a man; always gather in groups of women. When you spend time with men, always have another woman around who you trust.” Except that everyone recognizes that that advice would be psychotic and disruptive to everyone’s lives.
- As I said, women are treated as if, should they not follow this kind of advice, they are to *blame* for being raped and the act wasn’t even criminal. This is not true of any other crime. Well, except domestic violence. Which, surprise surprise, is also largely a male-on-female crime (it exists the other way around, in larger numbers than most of us guess, but no one even bothers to give men advice on not getting abused by their female partners.)
So in my post about sexual history and books, I mentioned The Sensuous Woman, by J.

I hadn't read it since my early teens; I just got the book again when Mom and Dad were paring down their library, and it's been on my shelf for a few months. The previous post made me curious, so I reread it last night, and it was a rather fascinating experience. First of all, the gender politics are atrocious. Shocker, I know. Setting that aside, though, the actual sexual advice is remarkably spot-on, even 40 years later. I only pegged one truly inaccurate bit of info (a recommendation of vaseline as a possible appropriate lube for girlbits), and a lot of it was quite ahead of its time (the section on anal sex not only talks positively about it, it also talks about men enjoying being on the receiving side sometimes, too). And it gives great and specific advice about masturbation.

And I found where I must've gotten a lot of ideas. Her suggestions on masturbation and exploration include specifically taking off the shower head and laying in the tub with your clit under the water stream from the spout I specifically did that as a teen (I first read this when I was 13 or so, I'd guess). I took a wrench to the damn thing to loosen it the first time. Kept it finger-tight from then on, and it's always been a family joke how long all us kids spent in the bathrooms as teens. And the oral sex instructions... I remember reading those. And I remember using them, with great success, my first time performing it. Weird to reread again after so many years and be reminded of all this.

Overall, it's a remarkably sex-positive book in some very cool ways, especially for the time period in which it was written. I'd expected it to be a worse experience to reread (although the gender stuff did have me groaning every few paragraphs). I honestly don't know how much of what feels familiar about it is stuff that I truly did learn from reading it and then take into my sex life, and how much is simply stuff that I've rediscovered on my own over the years, but wow, it all _feels_ familiar. And I certainly recognize large elements of my overall sexual style in it. It's sure not like I didn't have plenty of hangups when I was a teen and young adult, but I wonder how much easier having this as background made dealing with them?
So, the post about music got me thinking about the books and other events that were associated with the development of my sexuality. And when I look at my history, I absolutely see direct lines of connection between how I learned, and how I am today. I'm mixing sexuality and reproductive health in these stories, because it's all tangled up together.

not surprisingly, this got _really_ long )

Incidentally, my dreams this morning were some of the most graphic and sex-filled I've had in a long time. And I can't remember a bit of it except that this was the case. Argh!!!!
So, I've been reading a YA fantasy series called Artemis Fowl. In general, they're pretty fun -- sort of a mix of Chrestomanci and Phule's Company. But aside from the weirdness of naming your male character Artemis without, apparently, intending to be genderfucky, there's one thing that's really getting under my skin.

There's bad blood between humans and fairies. The fairies are not the bad guys, but they do use some insulting terms for humans. For some ungodly reason, the author settled on "Mud People". *twitch* WTF? I'm going to assume cluelessness on his part, not an intentional association between his protagonists and fucking asshole white supremacists. I think it's a damned good argument for googling your words before you make up new names/insults/etc. Go ahead. Google "mud people". Welcome to the wonderful world of white power websites. Please keep your in-flight barf bags close at hand.
Home with a damned migraine _again_. My paycheck is going to blow. I've got an appt set up for an eye exam so I can get myself some prescription sunglasses, though, which I'm hoping will make it a lot easier to continue to function with commuting and work when I've got a moderate migraine. I wish my glasses weren't so damned expensive; my last pair ran about $500 after insurance (I have stunningly bad vision - 20/1200, and have to get the absolutely highest-end lenses in order for my glasses not to be unreasonably heavy and thick).

I did teach last night for the first time in a month or so, though. Three really great residents, all of whom had a clue, and only needed some basic fine-tuning on their technique. So that was excellent.

I've been reading False Impressions: The Hunt for Big-Time Art Fakes. Plenty of it is pretty over my head, since I have no art background beyond what I've picked up from artist friends, but it's fascinating, and a fun look into the brain of someone with a very unusual speciality.

Intelligent Design's Latest Sneaky Assault on Science

I Don't Believe in Marriage -- Here's Why I Grudgingly Got Married Anyway

Is America on the Verge of a Geriatric Crime Wave? -- Damned elders. Gotta watch out for 'em. ;P

TheFerrett has some interesting thoughts on the word 'cissexual/cisgender', jumping off from DGlenn's excellent essay

Cow-nosed rays in migration -- stunningly beautiful

BuyMyTronics looks rather handy for clearing out backlogs of old electronics. Anyone have any experience with them? (from [livejournal.com profile] zombiechocolate)
Anyone local have recommendations for a good company/agent for homeowner's insurance? I'm in the middle of comparing quotes and such, and still looking around.

In other news, life is going well, although I'm constantly worrying that I'm forgetting something crucial. There's been lots of list-making to attempt to alleviate that particular worry. Not sure how successful it's been.

New Boss still "so far, so good". I'm still pleased. Work is still good.

Home is still quiet. Mark's back for a couple weeks, which means I'm getting fed in non-carryout ways again, which is nice (and saves money). I've noticed that I completely relinquish control of the kitchen when I'm living with other people. I will actually do some minimal cooking when living alone, but once there are other folks in the house, it just all gets too complicated, figuring out what's around, where the pots are, etc, and that kills what minimal level of interest in cooking I've ever had. And I revert to living off dried fruit, slim jims, and carryout. That's why it works so well when I live with folks who love to cook; I'll happily buy the groceries, and then it all works out.

At the "Itchy, Dammit!" phase of tattoo healing. Argh!

THE 13 1/2 LIVES OF CAPTAIN BLUEBEAR is very silly and fun. Recommended more for kids than adults, although adults that like kids books will likely enjoy it.

Bec and Jer got Azur and Asmar: The Princes' Quest from Netflix, and I was surprised by how much I enjoyed it. I liked the story, I loved the animation, I just recommend it in general. I just moved Kirikou and the Sorceress to the top of my queue in hopes it'll please me as well.


Your result for Which fantasy writer are you?...

Ursula K Le Guin (b. 1929)

7 High-Brow, -19 Violent, -3 Experimental and 19 Cynical!

Congratulations! You are High-Brow, Peaceful, Traditional and Cynical! These concepts are defined below.


Ursula Kroeber Le Guin is definitely one of the most celebrated science fiction and fantasy writers of all times. Her most famous fantasy work to date is the Earthsea suite of novels and short stories, in which Le Guin created not only one of the most believable societies in fantasy fiction, but also managed to describe a school for wizards almost three decades before Harry Potter. Although often categorized as written for young adults, these books have entertained and challenged readers of all ages since their publication.


Le Guin is no stranger to literary experiments (see for example Always Coming Home(1985)), but much of her story-telling is quite traditional. In fact, she makes a point of returning to older forms of story-telling, which, at her best, enables her to create something akin to myth. One shouldn't confuse myth with faerytale, though. Nothing is ever simplified in Le Guin's world, as she relentlessly explores ethical problems and the moral choices that her characters must make, as must we all. While being one of those writers who will allow you to escape to imaginary worlds, she is also one who will prompt you to return to your actual life, perhaps a little wiser than you used to be.



You are also a lot like Susan Cooper.



If you want some action, try Michael Moorcock.



If you'd like a challenge, try your exact opposite, C S Lewis.



Your score



This is how to interpret your score: Your attitudes have been measured on four different scales, called 1) High-Brow vs. Low-Brow, 2) Violent vs. Peaceful, 3) Experimental vs. Traditional and 4) Cynical vs. Romantic. Imagine that when you were born, you were in a state of innocence, a tabula rasa who would have scored zero on each scale. Since then, a number of circumstances (including genetical, cultural and environmental factors) have pushed you towards either end of these scales. If you're at 45 or -45 you would be almost entirely cynical, low-brow or whatever. The closer to zero you are, the less extreme your attitude. However, you should always be more of either (eg more romantic than cynical). Please note that even though High-Brow, Violent, Experimental and Cynical have positive numbers (1 through 45) and their opposites negative numbers (-1 through -45), this doesn't mean that either quality is better. All attitudes have their positive and negative sides, as explained below.



High-Brow vs. Low-Brow



You received 7 points, making you more High-Brow than Low-Brow. Being high-browed in this context refers to being more fascinated with the sort of art that critics and scholars tend to favour, rather than the best-selling kind. At their best, high-brows are cultured, able to appreciate the finer nuances of literature and not content with simplifications. At their worst they are, well, snobs.



Violent vs. Peaceful



You received -19 points, making you more Peaceful than Violent. This scale is a measurement of a) if you are tolerant to violence in fiction and b) whether you see violence as a means that can be used to achieve a good end. If you aren't, and you don't, then you are peaceful as defined here. At their best, peaceful people are the ones who encourage dialogue and understanding as a means of solving conflicts. At their worst, they are standing passively by as they or third parties are hurt by less scrupulous individuals.



Experimental vs. Traditional



You received -3 points, making you more Traditional than Experimental. Your position on this scale indicates if you're more likely to seek out the new and unexpected or if you are more comfortable with the familiar, especially in regards to culture. Note that traditional as defined here does not equal conservative, in the political sense. At their best, traditional people don't change winning concepts, favouring storytelling over empty poses. At their worst, they are somewhat narrow-minded.



Cynical vs. Romantic



You received 19 points, making you more Cynical than Romantic. Your position on this scale indicates if you are more likely to be wary, suspicious and skeptical to people around you and the world at large, or if you are more likely to believe in grand schemes, happy endings and the basic goodness of humankind. It is by far the most vaguely defined scale, which is why you'll find the sentence "you are also a lot like x" above. If you feel that your position on this scale is wrong, then you are probably more like author x. At their best, cynical people are able to see through lies and spot crucial flaws in plans and schemes. At their worst, they are overly negative, bringing everybody else down.


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So, in an attempt to post some of the stuff floating around my head, this is likely to be a bit scattershot, as I add bits of stuff here and there between calls. As call volume has increased over the years, I've begun to feel more and more like Harrison Bergeron when I try to write from work.

I left Friday for Michigan for Grafton's show, and finally got a chance to read [livejournal.com profile] yuki_onna's Palimpsest on the way. Fascinating and phantasmagorical, as always. And I finally figured out what rings so familiar in her style, or the effect it has on my head; I grew up on George MacDonald, especially Lilith and his collections of fairy tales. I find the dreamlike feel of her writing reminds me of that feel in his stories. And it's a good reminder that I haven't reread his stuff in way too long.

Getting to the show at Cranbrook was really good for my brain, too. Since it was the final show for the graduating class, there was work by every artist in the class. Lots to process and think about, and I'm really enjoying the reminder of how fun and stimulating it is to experience and discuss art. I really should make it out to the galleries in my neighborhood more often.

Also, American Zombie is very close to brilliant (it only fails to win the title because I found the "twist" to retrospectively damage the earlier portions). Amazing world-building (What social services would a Zombie population need? What evangelists would decide they had a calling to minister to the living dead?), and one of the most successful mockumentaries I've seen in a long time, in terms of managing to mimic banal authenticity. This is the zombie flick for all us lefty activist sociology-geek types... Lots of great ideas to ponder, explore, and discuss.

Isabella Rosselini's Green Porno series of shorts are wonderfully weird and triptastic (also, very short -- all between 1 and 2 minutes that I've seen so far). I especially recommend the Sadomasochistic Snail.

And Bill Nye has a new show! Woohoo! It's called Stuff Happens, and I recommend it for anyone who loves to watch silly geeks explaining things (if you're an Alton Brown fan, you'll likely also dig Bill Nye).

And now for a few links, of the many I keep thinking "I should share this"

420: The True Story Behind Stoners' Favorite Number

And apparently Cleveland's rockin' the sex ed world. Go us!


How Male Bisexuality Got Cool -- interesting little article.

I know I'm behind on my Political Goodness calendar, but I'm way too braindead to work on it at the moment.
I know plenty of you have various chronic health problems that affect mobility and function. Although this flare is slowly tapering off, and most of the problems are relatively minor now, my hands haven't stopped hurting for the past month and half. Sometimes it's relatively minor, sometimes it's so bad I can't do anything with them without substantial pain and weakness (including petting my animals, brushing my teeth, wanking, sex with my partners, and other basic necessities). More than anything, this is the aspect of the flare that's making me feel hopeless and helpless (and waking me up in the middle of the night constantly -- I can't find a way to sleep where they don't scream at me at some point).

I'm looking for any kind of practical suggestions -- what's worked for you to work around hurting hands? How do you get things done, what helps to make it easier? I've been thinking more and more about some practical life-adjustments, what kinds of minor tools and such might help (like an electric carving knife for when I can't use a regular knife, which I was desperately wanting yesterday -- instead, I found I could tear meat with two forks and get by). I'm already getting better at modifying my hand position when I'm trying to open bottles and such, and getting better at not twisting my hands into the most painful positions when I try to get things done, but I could really use some suggestions.

Dr appt was a very mixed bag, btw. Here's the update I wrote the other day:

GP doesn't understand why the rheumatologist thought she should do the paperwork instead of him. Back and forth between the offices all afternoon, not sure if I got anywhere at all, except that the paperwork is now with the rheumatologist, and his office staff says he's going to "look at it". I'm incredibly frustrated and depressed.

On the positive side, GP is awesome, even if her nurse is remarkably bitchy. She's referred me to pain management, set me up for labs to check for any actual arthritic processes, and we did some adjusting of my meds.

If my previously awesome and now unexplainably flakey rheumatologist doesn't pull his head out of his ass, though, I'm going to have to switch doctors, which means waiting more months for a new patient appointment.


So anyway, that's what's been going on. I'm really struggling with depression at the moment, despite having had a really good holiday with [livejournal.com profile] forestfire, and having gotten totally hooked on True Blood in the process (can't wait to get home at watch the last three eps we haven't seen yet -- I blame LJ for this new addiction, btw). I'm going to talk to Pain Management on Monday morning (7:30am), then I'm getting some labwork and x-rays to check to make sure there isn't also an inflammatory process happening, given how different this flare has been. My family is being awesomely, incredibly supportive (I've been missing a lot of pay recently, and Dad just spontaneously forgave a big chunk of debt I owe him, which was amazingly generous, and well beyond the call of duty, especially since he'd already told me not to worry about payments 'til I was doing better, and James and Mom have also been checking in on me regularly). Life could be a hell of a lot worse. Sadly, with my mental state at the moment, that's just feeding the "well, if I can't cope with a little hand pain when I've got all these advantages, I must _really_ suck" logic. *sigh* So, I'm trying to work on that by getting practical. Hence this post.

In other news, I'm really enjoying The Prehistory of Sex: Four Million Years of Human Sexual Culture. Although he occasionally take a theory as more agreed-upon than I believe it to be (the cervical "upsuck" from orgasm being a good example --
The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution
goes into the debate in more detail), overall I'm pretty pleased with the book so far. I like that he's not a big fan of the sociobiological approach, and that generally he's good at pointing out various conflicting theories, and the lack of certainty involved in determining which is actually correct. What the hell is up with the lack of footnotes recently, though?! Argh!
Phones are insane today, and we're badly understaffed, but I wanted to get out a few quick notes, even if they're a bit incoherent.

So, typical of me venting here, the next few days were all about figuring out practical ways to improve life, and that's gone pretty well (largely assisted by this flare continuing to taper down to pretty manageable levels, thankfully). I'm feeling a lot better for having managed a day of housecleaning on Saturday, and for finally being social again.

Friday night was Margaret Cho with Casey, Bill, bec76, zodarzone, syrinx_77, and xhollydayx, with a bonus chance to see jen_tel as well. Margaret was hysterical, and it was great to see everyone, especially since without escorting or patient-instructing I've been missing seeing Casey and Liv a great deal. Casey also made me yummy cake, so yay for that!

Saturday was cleaning, and Sunday I had a birthday-date, in line with deciding to stop being so reclusive, so that was fun.

Yesterday I got my card from my folks, a gorgeous and fun book, Naked Geometry, from [livejournal.com profile] cjdoyle (aw, thanks!), and the puzzles [livejournal.com profile] eris_esoteric is sharing with me (also, thanks, they look like fun!)

Currently reading A Mind of Its Own: A Cultural History of the Penis, which is by turns amusing and horrifying (although sadly lacking in footnotes; I hate that in histories), and spend a good chunk of the weekend watching the first season of Psych on DVD while I cleaning and organized (handy cleaning tip for folks with health issues -- get a big, big box, pull all the junk from around the house into it, and then you can sit and clean/organize, rather than having to be up and down as much). I'm also working on a jigsaw that's driving me insane, in a mostly good way. It's the photorealistic map in this set (the other was relatively easy, although a lot of fun). I've finished all the continents, and am now down to an ocean of blue pieces, rather literally. Oy. I'm really liking Educa's puzzles (this is my favorite so far), and that they have a lost piece service, and even include a packet of puzzle glue in the box, although I wish they were more creative with piece shape. Ah well; can't have it all.

Last night I finally managed to make schedules work with my counselor again for the first time in several months. We had a good talk about the stresses from this flare, and worries about work stability, etc, and frustrations with my doctors about getting my FMLA paperwork handled and all that. Good stuff to hash through with her; I'm hoping my doctor appt next week goes well in that regard; that'll alleviate a whole lot of stress.

We also have a couchsurfer coming in this week for a few days, and then both [livejournal.com profile] grf and [livejournal.com profile] forestfire coming through for Thanksgiving, so I'm looking forward to all of that.

Now it's time to catch up on email.

And Greta Christina (whom I adore) hits in on the head in terms of the effects of working with sexually oriented material

My favorite bit:

In the years that I've worked and written about sex products and sexual issues, I have not become jaded about sex.

I have become relaxed about sex.

And jaded and relaxed are not the same thing.

Being jaded means you've lost your capacity to be excited and moved by something. It means that you've been made dull, apathetic or cynical by experience or by surfeit (to quote Merriam Webster). It means you've seen so much of something that you just don't care about it anymore.

Being relaxed, on the other hand, simply means being at ease. It means being comfortable. It doesn't mean that you've seen so much of something that you don't care about it anymore. It means that you've seen so much of something that you think of it as normal.

I'm fascinated by the assumption that exposure to sex will make people bored with it. After all, sex is one of our deepest, most fundamental animal drives. Our interest in it is not going anywhere. I mean, we're exposed to food every day, several times a day, and we're not showing any signs of becoming jaded or bored with it. Why do we think being exposed to sex all day would make us jaded or bored with that?
http://www.dailykos.com/storyonly/2008/10/10/125151/87/93/626397">How one woman reacted to protestors outside her local Planned Parenthood. Aww... That makes me all warm and fuzzy.

Preterm, the clinic I'll be at later this morning, runs a Pledge-a-Picketer campaign. It's a tactic I'm really fond of -- turns the antis activities back on them, without running up against the fine lines on freedom of expression. It's also been used to good effect by GLBT centers targeted by Phelps and his lot.

Oy. It's 5:30am. I've been up since about 4, and I really need to get back to sleep for a bit before I have to be at the clinic at 7:45. I'm with Casey today, though, which means a ride, and excellent company. And I'm at Preterm, not the Center, which means shade. Yay!

Dad's doing the phone upgrades for our family plan. I'm getting a Blackberry Curve! Yay!

This has been a week of sleep deprivation, brokeness, and medical worries, but it's actually been quite good all 'round. Lots of good company; [livejournal.com profile] may_dryad, [livejournal.com profile] syrinx_77, Casey, Bill, [livejournal.com profile] calebbullen, our couchsurfer Libby. Other than hanging out, I've been utterly sucked into the election; it's been a fascinating week, and I've acknowledged that my interest in what's going on is really approaching sports fan level -- aside from all the really important stuff, the little trivialities of who's "scoring points", who's on the injured list, etc, etc... It's all really entertaining me (of course, it's a lot easier to enjoy that element when things are looking good for the eventual outcome).

I'm waiting on a puzzle from eBay -- finished the dragon a few days back, although I haven't pulled it off the porta-puzzle yet. I'm semi-seriously considering getting a pizza spatula, or whatever it's called, to make that easier. Too many of the puzzles I do have odd-shaped pieces and don't hold together remarkably well.

Currently reading Your Inner Fish, which is quick and short, but remarkably full of fascinating ideas and info; I'm enjoying it immensely. Actually originally heard about it due to The Colbert Report -- the author did a remarkably good and funny job holding his own against Colbert while explaining some relatively complex concepts.

Also, the house is clean, Caleb moves in this weekend, I have Netflix coming, and a giant stack of fascinating library books to work through. I also have three books I set aside at Visible Voice, although I can't collect those 'til payday next week.

Oh, and lemon bars from Civ. Yum. Have two more in the fridge.

OK, going to try to get an hour nap before Casey gets here.

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